Everyone uses a system, whether consciously or not. Our family culture is a system of sorts, with jargon, rules, behaviors, judgements, and mannerisms both overt and covert. This being the case, when we meet someone new we unwittingly compare our system to theirs. We may not even be aware of it, but we are in fact assessing others based on …
Denial….
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Denial |
Acceptance |
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Optimistic |
Pessimistic |
Obtuse….
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Obtuse |
Astute |
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Off the hook |
Blameworthy |
Spiritual practice is not….
Spiritual practice is not a cold remedy, something you use only when you have a problem.
Awareness of our motives….
Awareness of our motives is so important. If we think we are playing when in fact there is anger underneath, the play becomes a game of hurt.
Undermined….
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Undermined |
Supported |
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Challenged / played with |
Coddled |
High Self Esteem….
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High self-esteem |
Low self-esteem |
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Entitled / grandiose / know-it-all |
Humble / learner |
Struggle….
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Struggle |
Weak |
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Crushed |
Happy |
Transformation…
So much language these days is about change, transformation, on all levels and in all sectors of our lives. The law of change is always working, but in what direction are we going? That depends on what we are doing now. So nothing is static, though we may think it is because it moves so slowly. The transformation I desire …