The goal of most things that pass for spirituality is to have a perfectly constructed, sure idea of who we are—so we maintain a diminished existence. The goal of true spiritual practice is to shed all ideas and reach a thought-free awareness of who we truly are.
Own your own cruelty. Know where it resides. Then, if you’re cruel you’ll at least know you’re being cruel.
A genuinely good day is one in which you were able throughout to be with your experience honestly, whatever it happened to be.
Real honesty is never vague.
The delusion that spiritual practice will lead to more and more pleasurable or “good” experiences and fewer and fewer painful or “bad” experiences misses the point completely. The point is to know our true nature.
The Guru’s instructive shining of a light is taken for cruelty by the shrunken self.
Caring is not reaching out at someone, or discussing only things I can relate with, or making what you experience the same as whatever I’ve experienced.
“If I identify as a victim, I do not need to change.” Not true—I am half of the problem.
What the shrunken self wants: to stay the way it is, continue to bring to the table what it has always brought to the table, and have everything work out in its favor unconditionally.
Self-punishment is not a tool for good. Beating yourself up is a way of not learning.