The best “you” your system will tell you to be will still never be you.
To be concerned about someone else’s system is to be doubly outward-turned. It’s your system that wants to do that.
If you are not willing to be the “bad guy,” you will receive plenty of affirmation for abandoning yourself.
If you are aware of the world while also being focused inwardly on the Heart, you will have more time, because your vehicles don’t have to serve as the providers of solutions.
You have to know how to drop your attitude. You can only do this if you know that your attitude isn’t who you are.
If our only tool in relationships is entanglement of one form or another, we will never have a healthy relationship. We have to lose our taste for entanglement and stop calling it something else.
The more sure you are in your head, the more you won’t see what matters. The more you are committed to an idea, the less safe you are for yourself and others.
Whether you have a “good” system or a “bad” system is off the point. The point is that whatever system you have isn’t you. The best “you” your system can assemble still won’t be you.
To be reactive is to forfeit your agency. To keep from being reactive, you have to know your system and remain vigilant in being with your experience honestly at every moment.
If you’re looking for opportunities to be generous, you’re not generous. Generosity arises from within.