To work with a fourchotomy, you have to begin by being honest with yourself. This means being willing to hear your honest, unfiltered answer in the moment; if you pause to think it over, you will be answering from the wrong place entirely. It takes practice to hear your honest answer and not fall prey to your mental chatter. Assertive …
Know the difference….
Know the difference between being obedient and throwing yourself under the bus.
Alone….
Alone Smothered Isolated / lonely Together
What Is a Fourchotomy….
The world appears to us as we choose to see it. Most of us see the world in binary terms, framing our experience in pairs of opposites. These pairs of opposites define and limit our perception by shrinking the world into a kind of template; that template in turn limits our choices and actions. Recognizing and dismantling this template is …
Stop looking at others….
Stop looking at others and blaming them for your actions. You have choice. Look at what you bring to the table. If it is inappropriate then change your behavior.
Sacrifice yourself….
Sacrifice yourself Preserve yourself Serve the situation Impose yourself on others
The One True Sacrifice….
The last blog established how “sacrifice” can be a destructive force. From this point of view, sacrifice is a negation; it implies scapegoating, discarding, abandoning. It is not sacrifice, though, that is the problem. It is what we sacrifice, and to whom, that determine whether our offering leads to good or ill. Sacrifice Hoard / grasp Scapegoat / abandon …
People throw away….
People throw away their lives by throwing away every moment.
Sacrifice….
Sacrifice Hoard / grasp Scapegoat / abandon / discard Cherish / keep
What We Are Willing To Sacrifice….
We all live by rules, assumed rules. We live by unconscious rules that are so embedded in us that we believe they are universal. But when we reflect, we see that these rules are not only not universal but in many cases harmful and counter to Love. These rules have been developed in environments that promoted the shrunken self, and …