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You can’t magically change a relationship if the other person is unwilling to change. But you can change your relationship with the relationship.

It really doesn’t matter what your vibration is. They’re all just vibrations. Do not treat any of them as more or less real than any others.

Lack of empathy always begins with the unwillingness to face your own vibrations.

It is crucial to our practice that we feel—but we must feel without either stuffing those feelings or splattering them on everyone around us by emoting. Emoting is not feeling.

Our thinking is what imprisons us. We don’t know this, and we actually believe we are practicing. Until we are willing to stop thinking the practice and begin to feel whatever we are feeling, true sādhana is not even an option.  

We have to feel so we do not use honesty as a weapon. Many people choose to be honest when their “honest” answer is more cruel than lying. These people are not willing to be with their experience, whatever it is, let whatever comes up from that experience come up, and then function appropriately on the physical plane.

If Love is the bottom line and we don’t Love ourselves, we are totally uprooted. There is no care, no feeling. We are lost in our idea of the other person and ourselves—lost in a series of ideas that calls whatever is occurring something it isn’t.

If you are honest with yourself, that will set you free. If you cling to a fantasy, you will get crushed.

If we are honest about our stories, we can learn the right lessons from them. But if we keep a fantasy going, we are only going to get crushed.

Know the vibration of each story from your past. You have to be able to recognize that vibration when it surfaces again, so you can keep learning rather than repeating.