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Competence builds confidence–not the other way around.

The career victim uses their own potential as bait for the guiltily responsible; the guiltily responsible wants to be the indispensable guide and support for the career victim.

Clarity and resolution are always possible, but only if we are no longer indulging in positivity or negativity.

If we receive the Grace in the moment and then intellectualize it, we will lose it; if we receive the Grace in the moment and fail to study, we will also lose it. Grace is a spark or ember that has to be tended to become a lasting fire within us.  

When a career victim temporarily gives up her narrative, if things go well she feels deprived and belittled because it wasn’t “her” that people affirmed or liked. So she scrambles to get back to her narrative, because she wants her idea of herself to be affirmed. Anything else is, to her, victimization.

People who refuse to accept their own agency shy away from responsibility for their spiritual growth and just like to be dragged up the path, transformed as if by magic.

The shrunken self does not reflect. It always applies a double standard: if I do it, it’s okay, or at least understandable, and your reaction is your problem; if you do the same thing, it’s not okay, and it upsets me.

If you think you’re in charge of your life, you’re really just at the mercy of your triggers.

We must vacate our systems in favor of stillness, which allows the solutions we need to arise into our consciousness from a level we may not understand.

What you leave out of a narrative is often more important than what’s there.