Category Archive

Weaponize self-absorption

Participate helpfully

Speak your truth to power

Your voice has no power

Designated damaged person

Self-appointed healthy person

Taken care of / know your place

Burdened with care and responsibility

Only the damaged deserve your care

The healthy deserve your care

You always have a job

Your care isn’t always necessary / your job comes and goes / the relationship evolves

Practice nonviolence

Practice self-assertion and justify its destructiveness

Fail to take appropriate action

Know how to operate in the world

Everyone has goodness in them

People are wholly and unredeemably bad

Everyone can fool you

Never surprised

Everyone has badness in them

Everyone is redeemable

Everyone has choice

No one is responsible

Commiserate and seek allies

Indifferent / callous to others’ suffering / do not understand

Drowning with others

Let others have their own experience

Emotional abuser / besieger / surround and wear down others with your position

Nurturing / there for others

Deep / intimate / needs get met / constant and consistent

Have to deny your own needs

Depleted / deny your own needs

Enlivened / encouraged to live your own life

Unselfish

Selfish

Beleaguered / surrounded and worn down / besieged

Buoyant / alive

Get to have a relationship

On your own