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Handling the situation |
Not in control / not in charge |
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Using cruelty, lying, and any other “tool” or “strategy |
Kind and being honest |
Willingness not to please the demoralizer / not kowtowing to the insecure
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Willingness not to please the demoralizer / not kowtowing to the insecure |
Forsake and cave in to please others |
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You get punished |
Avoid abuse |
Demoralize
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Demoralize |
Uplift |
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Set the standards |
Indiscriminately positive |
Banish
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Banish |
Welcome / embrace |
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In control of narrative |
Your system doesn’t get to be the last word |
Demoralization
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Demoralization |
Uphold agency |
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Have no conflict and no responsibility |
Have shared responsibility to work things out |
Unwanted
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Unwanted |
Wanted |
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Independent |
Smothered |
Abandons
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Abandons |
Remains true |
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No strings |
Have to honor commitment |
Abandoned
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Abandoned |
Cared for |
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Set free |
Confined |
Banished
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Banished |
Included / a part of / embraced / appreciate |
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Off the hook / free to maintain narrative |
Smothered / held accountable |
Your system is being exposed/caught which gives you the opportunity to grow and change
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Your system is being exposed/caught which gives you the opportunity to grow and change |
Your system remains intact and unthreatened |
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Abused by life and abandoned by God |
You get your idea of life |