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Ambient abuse |
Ambient love |
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Ego in charge / don’t have to surrender |
Love directs your life / surrendered |
Happy
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Happy |
Miserable |
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Always the center of attention |
No one is watching |
Protecting self by not feeling
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Protecting self by not feeling |
Exposing myself to pain and confrontation, left unprotected |
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Cutting myself off from life and God |
Accepting that life isn’t always easy and comfortable |
Focus on others’ mistakes / quick to criticize
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Focus on others’ mistakes / quick to criticize |
Accept where others are / question your judgments of others |
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Encourage others to learn and grow |
Not helpful at all / uncaring / foster mediocrity |
Able to offer critique
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Able to offer critique |
Nothing helpful to say |
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Sure / overestimating yourself |
Modest reserve |
Micromanage
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Micromanage |
Give space |
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You know what’s expected |
Total chaos |
Have repulsive relationships with everyone
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Have repulsive relationships with everyone |
Harmonious relationships with everyone |
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No place to go / off the hook / control |
Invasive / smothering / vulnerable / something to lose |
Generous spirit
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Generous spirit |
Exploitative / using others / seeking advantage |
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Taken advantage of |
Never get played |
Abandons
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Abandons |
Remains true |
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No strings |
Have to honor commitment |
Creative
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Creative |
Pedestrian |
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Chaotic / sloppy |
Disciplined / steady / orderly |