- A pleaser avoids conflict only to end up creating it. What you run from, you run into.
- There’s a difference between standing up for yourself and indulging your desires.
- You are who and what you complain about.
- Your value is not in what you do but in who you are.
- It’s the job of inferior people to keep superior people in their place.
- The way to be superior is to be equal.
- The way to always be right is to admit when you’re wrong.
- God as concept is limited; God as experience is limitless.
- Love’s only condition is unconditional.
- Live within and enjoy the world.
- If we are in harmony with the ego, we are out of sync with reality.
- Look within. It’s the only way out.
- Deception is nobody’s friend. Has it ever worked for you?
- Grown-ups are people pretending to be adults.
- Narcissism is when people look outside themselves into their minds for happiness.
- Go into the darkness and the darkness is dissolved.
- Bring into harmony how you feel about yourself, how you think you come across, and how others perceive you.
- Keep the mind quiet so you can hear what God says.
- Deep secrets make our alienation special.
- Withheld communication is louder than silence.
- “I love you. I don’t have to be good to you. Why should I treat you any better than I treat myself?”
- Divestment of attention is not divestment of responsibility.
- No matter how many times you’ve been born, someday you have to grow up.
- Guilt is the acceptable alternative to unacceptable feelings.
- Destiny can’t change, but your attitude can.
- Enthusiasm is a fair-weather friend.
- Surrender to God is a sign of strength, not weakness.
- Surrender to God does not rob us of personality or vitality.
- To look within your heart and out at the world is to see as God sees.
- One hundred percent (fe)male is only fifty percent human.
- Discipline is the vessel from which all creativity pours.
- Insights and breakthroughs are like seeds: unplanted, they bear no fruit.
- Romance is the invitation to relationship, not the goal.
- Romance is how grown-ups play make-believe.
- The path to God is long, arduous, and joyful; the path to personal power is short, fast, and deadly.
- Shoveling the dirt out of the mind lightens the load of the heart.
- The mind has a mind of its own that has a mind of its own that has a mind of its own.
- A calm ocean lies beyond the storm of boredom.
- The real world is wherever you are real.
- Our world is a reflection of our inner condition.
- Are you persuaded by substance or delivery?
- Trusting words alone and not the experience behind them brings disaster.
- The mind thinks, the intellect decides, the ego identifies with the decision.
- To be effective tools, the mind and body should be relaxed, efficient, and agile.
- Only when the mind loses control of you can you gain control of it.
- The way to be special is to be honest.
- The degree to which life works is the degree to which we are honest.
- Discrimination and discernment are judgment purified.
- To love with respect is to love without attachment.
- Respect yourself and respect from others will follow.
- I am, therefore I can think.
- Everything in you is in the others; everything in the others is in you.
- There is nowhere where spiritual growth is not possible.
- Clean up the outside by first cleaning up the inside.
- Sentiments are of the mind; true feelings are of the heart.
- Do you love others or your concept of others?
- Self-effort is an insistence on being fully present to the Reality of the moment.
- Real change happens only with surrender to God, because only God is real.
- Be a nobody, and only the true are with you. Be humble and you’ll be free.
- Simple is not dumb.
- Rebel against your wrong understanding, not against Reality.
- It defies reason that an unreasonable proposition, reasonably expressed, is received as reasonable.
- A reasonable proposition, unreasonably expressed, is still reasonable, though unreceived.
- We are responsible for speaking out, not for whether others hear what we say.
- Repentance is not guilt. It is awakening.
- In the power plays within a pair, the one who initiates contact is inferior.
- If need equals love, then love thrives on incompetence.
- The goal is to continue to love the process.
- When you’re in your mind, you can’t use your intellect.
- Being cut off from your feelings makes us behave irrationally.
- “Your life doesn’t exist when I’m not there.”
- You take your problems with you, so why go anywhere?
- The spark of ego gets mistaken for the spark of freedom.
- Silence is not always peace, and peace is not always silent.
- Compassion is love with detachment.
- Dispassion is detachment with compassion.
- Don’t fix people. Encourage people to fix themselves.
- If I weren’t worthless, I’d be a nothing.
- “My needs are sincere; others’ are selfish.”
- Lying is not conflict resolution.
- “I thought it, so you must have heard it.”
- “Positive feelings” are those that do not challenge or threaten your limited sense of self.
- Ego and pretense are mistaken for intelligence.
- “Being egotistical is okay, as long as it’s unconscious.”
- Will others like you more if you like you less?
- Cult + your = culture.
- Do you feel like a winner only when there is a loser?
- Relating from the mind is win/lose; relating from the heart is win/win.
- To give up failure, you have to give up success.
- The nurtured soul brings fulfillment; the nurtured ego, abuse.
- People in pain win the dependency game.
- Low and high self-esteem are both egotistical.
- Nice is a euphemism for victim.
- Putting up with something is not forgiveness.
- For a victim, pity is the surrogate of love.
- Discipline from the ego is behavior modification. Discipline from the heart is personal transformation.
- The real world, to some, is getting reality to coincide with fantasy.
- Numbing is not being cool or in control. It doesn’t even fool the world, does it?
- Worrying is a form of numbing.
- Abandonment is conflict without the other person.
- When idea and reality do not coincide, anger arises.
- We become what we meditate on. Meditate on God.
- If in what you do you can’t be who you are, it’s not worth doing.
- If with someone you can’t be who you are, it’s not worth being with them.
- Grace under pressure is pretending the problem doesn’t exist.
- When people lose control of their minds, they seek to gain power over others.