We hate ourselves….

We hate ourselves; we see ourselves as bad. Codependency happens when we are drawn to people in whose presence we get to feel bad, small, and unworthy. We believe those people must be “good”, so we can be “good” only as long as, and as far as, they accept us. What we call “love” is the feeling of having an insecure hold on the affection of someone we believe is “good”. If someone gives us real Love, without encouraging our delusion, we reject it—because whoever gives us that couldn’t possibly be our idea of “good”.